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If You’re Ever in San Francisco…

I just got an email from the nice folks at Caffe Capriccio, a coffee shop in the North Beach neighborhood in San Francisco that Berkie and I hung out at on our trip to the Bay Area a few years ago. I liked Caffe Capriccio a lot, and they have a new website (nicely designed!) where you can order food online, which is very cool. If you’re ever in North Beach, I highly recommend the coffee shop. (And if you need a place to stay, the San Remo Hotel is glorious.)

And now I find myself missing San Francisco terribly, wishing I could drop everything and head back west. *sigh*

Fear and Loathing

It’s amazing how the GOP (along with its propaganda wing, Fox News) is always so eager to throw out the Constitution and let the government treat criminals as enemy combatants who can be tried in secret and tortured for information…but talk about passing gun laws that they see as a threat to the Second Amendment and it’s “NOOOO!! THE CONSTITUTION IS SACRED!! WE NEED TO HAVE UNFETTERED ACCESS TO GUNS IN CASE THE GOVERNMENT EVER BECOMES A TOTALITARIAN POLICE STATE THAT IMPRISONS AND TORTURES CITIZENS WITHOUT JUST CAUSE!!”

I try to imagine their ideal society and it makes my brain hurt. A lot.

Graturday 5

This has been a pretty ragged week. I was in a car accident on Tuesday, which not only threw off my writing mojo (I obviously haven’t blogged at all this week, but I also haven’t worked on any poetry or fiction) but will potentially do some heavy damage to my bank account. It’s looking like my car is totaled, which is something I really didn’t need right now. So it’s more important than ever for me to focus on the good and be thankful for what I have.

1. I’m grateful that none of the three vehicles involved in the accident had any passengers, just drivers. The chance for injury would have been much greater with more people involved.

2. I’m grateful that none of the drivers were seriously injured. No ambulances were needed, all three drivers were able to drive away from the scene of the accident (even if not all of the cars could), and all I’ve had since the accident was a very mild concussion (pressure headache and a couple instances of minor dizziness) that faded after a couple of days.

3. I’m grateful that everyone I’ve had to deal with regarding the accident–the two company that got my car from the scene of the accident, all of the State Farm reps I’ve dealt with, and the mechanic at the body shop where my car was towed to–have been friendly, funny, compassionate, and helpful.

All in all, this situation could have been much worse than it turned out. Phew!

Graturday 4

Feeling kind of down today, so finding three things I’m grateful for is going to kind of a stretch, but here goes…

1. I’m grateful for the TV show Doctor Who and all of the people who have had a hand in creating it. The stories and characters and mad imagination of the show have inspired me for a long, long time, and have led me to think about my own ethics, morals, and behaviors.

2. I’ m grateful for my friend Robin, whose birthday was yesterday, and my friend Jenna, whose birthday is Monday. Both have been very, very good friends to me and understand a lot of what goes on in my head, reassuring me that I’m making more progress in life than I may think I am. Happy Birthdays to you two!

3. I’m grateful for my overall health. Yes, I’m out of shape. Yes, my cholesterol is too high. Yes, I get too many headaches. Yes, I have brain chemistry issues. But for the most part, I’m pretty healthy, and I’m very thankful for that.

War and Peace

Bombs exploded in Boston today. (More bombs were found and taken care of before they could go off, thankfully.) An eight-year-old boy was killed. When something like this happens, it’s easy to get overwhelmed with anxiety, fear, depression, and anger. It’s all too easy to forget about all the days when something like this doesn’t happen. And it’s tragically easy to fall into a cycle of responding to violence with more violence. Or violent rhetoric, at the very least.

But here’s what I think. The solution to events like this, and to patterns of violence and terror, is not more guns or more bombs. We need less talk of violence and revenge, less talk of killing to defend our loved ones, not more. Wayne LaPierre of the National Rifle Association recently said,  ”The only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun.” And that’s just about the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard. Bullies need to be stood up to, but if you think you can stop violence with more violence–or even the threat of violence–you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem. If bravery means fighting with guns, knives, and bombs, than I’m proud to be a coward rather than a killer. If it’s naive to think we can defeat violence with nonviolence, than I’m happy to be naive.

What we need is more creativity, more compassion, more intelligence. It would be twee to suggest that we can solve all of the violence in the world with hugs and songs, and I certainly don’t believe that. But it’s bloody foolish to think you can solve violent problems with warfare. I’ll place my bets on tolerance, compassion, mercy, humor, and passive resistance. I’ll take my lessons from Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Jr., Albert Einstein, and Charlie Chaplin. I truly do believe that there is more good, more love, more peace, more construction in humanity than there is evil, hatred, violence, destruction. As Patton Oswalt wrote today, “We would not be here if humanity were inherently evil. We’d have eaten ourselves alive long ago.”